First: Don't Blame Yourself
Scammers are professional criminals. Being victimized doesn't mean you're naive or foolish—it means you were targeted by someone skilled in manipulation.
Immediate Steps
Step 1: Stop All Contact
Block the scammer on all platforms. Do not respond to any further communication, even if they threaten or try to manipulate you.
Step 2: Document Everything
Screenshot conversations, save emails, and document any financial transactions. This evidence is crucial for reporting.
Step 3: Secure Your Accounts
Change passwords on any accounts the scammer may have accessed. Enable two-factor authentication everywhere.
Step 4: Contact Your Financial Institutions
If you sent money, contact your bank or credit card company immediately. Some transactions may be reversible if reported quickly.
Reporting the Scam
In the United States
- FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3)
- Federal Trade Commission (FTC)
- Your state's Attorney General
Internationally
Contact your local law enforcement and financial regulatory authorities.
On Dating Platforms
Report the profile to the platform. They can ban the account and prevent future victims.
Seeking Support
Being scammed can cause emotional trauma similar to other forms of abuse. Consider:
- Talking to a therapist or counselor
- Joining online support groups for scam survivors
- Sharing your story to help others (anonymously if preferred)
How Verify Helps Victims
Verify provides a platform to anonymously share your experience and connect with others who may have encountered the same scammer. By sharing what you know, you help protect future potential victims while finding support from others who understand.
Recovery Is Possible
Many scam victims go on to become advocates who help protect others. Your experience, as painful as it is, gives you valuable insight that can save someone else from the same fate.